Accepting what’s so
April 20, 2006 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
When we really want something it can be hard to accept what’s so. It can be hard to accept that everything you have in your life right now is fine. But this simple act can help you to get what you want!
Release the “expectancy” and the “need” and allow universal support to attract to you that which you so desire.
But this post is about “accepting what’s so” and what I really want to do is point out the pitfalls you may get yourself into when doing that.
It can be hard to accept “I am a drug addict and a theif” or “I am 300 pounds over weight” or “I owe £30k in gambling debts” and in doing so here are two things you may do, but you won’t now that you are reading this :0) :
The first is you will use “what’s so” as a way to beat yourself up (Oh! I’m so hopeless or Oh! How could I have gotten myself into this mess) that
kind of rubbish doesn’t help so stop it! Give that up now. You are
where you are, accept that.
This is very important because it is easy to be hard on yourself and it solves nothing. I totally gave up useless self-defeating emotions like guilt, and self pity about 18 months ago and life has been great since. You free up precious life energy that you were using on those emotions and use them in helpng you to create a fantastic life instead. It was a process though, something I worked towards over years, but it is better to start now than to never start at all.
Just promise yourself that whenever you feel guilt, self-pity or whatever you do to keep yourself small creeping up on you, you will stop, acknowledge it is there (accepting what’s so remember!) and then CHOOSE something else for yourself.
Choose to be brave, positive, passionate, forgiving, happy, joy-filled, self-expressed, whatever it is that you feel is what you need. Choose that instead.
The second thing you may use “accepting what’s so” for is as an excuse to develop apathy (Oh!
What’s the point? Why bother? Is there really any need?). There is a point! The point is when you accept where
you are at you can work towards doing something about it and figuring out where you want to be.
This is a great place to be in, the place of “accepting what’s so” because when you know what’s so then it provides an opening to create “what will be” or even better “what is”. It is more powerful to create something for yourself and believe it is there for you right now, but if you have trouble with that concept, or you can’t believe “I am rich” when your present cirumstances show evidence to the contrary then start with “what will be”.
Create what you want for yourself in your future and keep it positive, as much as possible keep it in the present tense. I am, I have.
Also give thanks, show gratitude for what’s so, because it has provided you with a great lesson, something you can learn about yourself. Use those lessons in the future, avoid making the same mistake twice!
Accepting what’s so is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself, and the art of giving thanks, of gratitude is one of the biggest gifts you can give to the universe. When the two come together creating what you want becomes possible.
Failure is doomed!
April 19, 2006 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
"People feel overwhelmed when they see a
failure as a personality defect instead of what it is – a great signal to
modify their approach" Tony Robbins
Do you think that perhaps that is all you need to do? Modify your approach?
Perhaps whatever you believe you have not been successful at or you have not achieved is in fact just in need of a slight modification or two. Doesn’t that make it feel as if you could now go back and take a look?
I remember reading a quote that said you are not a failure until you give up and I really believe that. Only those that have given up on life, or are not even trying to make life better when they know they are totally unhappy are true failures. If you have been out there doing something and it didn’t work out then good for you! At least you made an effort, at least you tried, at least you put yourself out there and had a go, took a risk, stepped up to the plate!
Failure is one of those words that is in the perception of the holder! Which means then that it isn’t a rigid thing that is true, it is in fact just a matter of how you look at it. Isn’t that fantastic. That means then that there really is no such thing as failure.
Excellent. So now go out there, modify your behaviour and enjoy life.
I choose
April 12, 2006 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
I can choose to face it or I can choose to run
I can choose to argue or I can choose to stay calm
I can choose to smile or I can choose to be angry
I can choose people who empower and uplift me or I can choose people who don’t
I can choose to be happy or I can choose to see everything as a problem
I can choose to learn from my mistakes or I can choose to play the victim
I can choose to take a risk, have a go, get up when knocked down or I can choose to hide
I choose what my life becomes because I choose
The decision is mine
I decide
Discovering Greatness in my business
April 9, 2006 by DianeCorriette · 1 Comment
My mentor tells me I need to learn to focus and he is right! I am distracted way too easily! I turned on my computer to start recording audios for my new online site "getting more confident" and a quick conversation has me here at my blog typing up something I must get out of my head so it will leave me in peace!
At least I know who is boss! When my unconcious mind decides it wants to share something it will not leave my head until I get it down on paper. Anyway, back to the point……….
I was asked this morning how being conciously aware of Discovering Greatness had impacted my business, and my first thought was, well I am my business (only because I run my business, I realise on a deeper level that I am NOT my business, or my body, or my gender etc etc….!)
My business and I are not separate, everything I do in my business is a reflection of my values and beliefs.
What I find is that who I am in my personal life will also be the same in my professional life. Let me explain! If I had an issue with saying no to people then this would not only happen in my personal life,(e.g. not being able to say no to family), but it will also happen in my work life, (e.g. not being able to say no to my boss.)
Everything I have talked about as it relates to Discovering Greatness in my personal life also relates to my professional life too. So my post about "Greatness in the face of fear" relates to my professional life because I work with communities within inner city areas where money is tight and survival is the need that many aim to fulfil. So to walk into a room full of people from a community estate and tell them that they create their own reality through their thoughts requires some level of discovering greatness in myself!!!
Also my work with young people centres around developing their sense of SELF, raising their confidence and building their aspirational beliefs in their ability to achieve.
Now my angle with parents is "Raise your confidence and you will produce confident children". So when I talk to parents I say "if your child has no confidence it is because you have none and you need to look towards transforming that so that your child can grow up with a high level of self-worth, because children learn all they know from the adults in their life"
Now the interpretation of that is "if your child has no confidence it is because you dont and so it is your fault". Which is absolutely what I am saying, just not in that way 
I then need to have the "blame" conversation and what a waste of energy it is. I reinforce the "facts"! This is how it is, sort it, or don’t the choice is yours!
I can only talk this way because I discover greatness in people, the difference is, now that I am conciously aware of me discovering my own greatness I can now stand in front of that crowd and realise that whether people agree or not does not have to affect how great I feel about myself.
Audience reaction will usually perk and motivate me, or leave me feeling drained. It no longer has to have that effect. As I stand there discovering my greatness and the greatness of those in the room my way of "being" changes, I no longer have to defend my position, I can look at all those who go on the defensive as having greatness within them and support them in recognising that rather than defend myself against what they have just said.
So discovering greatness is more about a way of "being" for me. Who am I "being" when I stand in front of a room full of people. I now realise that I have been wanting to be right and defensive. I am happy when my audience is, and drained when my audience is not.
Contrast that to just opening myself up to "being" greatness and the empahsis shifts from having to "do" loads of stuff (defend, be right etc) to just focusing on being passionate about something I believe in. The development of young women into confident beings full of self-worth.
Now that is a profound paradigm shift for me! Now back to my audios……..
Nothing is Impossible
April 3, 2006 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in a a world they have been given than to explore the power they have to change it.
Impossible is not a fact – It’s an opinion
Impossible is not a declaration – it’s a dare
Impossible is potential
Impossible is temporary
Impossible is nothing
How Great Do “They” Want Me to Be?
April 3, 2006 by DianeCorriette · 1 Comment
In my quest to discover how great I can be the universe has decided to test my resolve once more! In October 2005 I lost the use of my legs for quite a while because of suffering with a curved spine. In fact my first week without pain was in February 2006.
So imagine my annoyance when I woke up yesterday to find the pain has returned, full force! Only this time I am refusing to let it keep me in bed.
I spent most of last night up walking around continually saying the affirmations "i can heal myself, I release the need for this pain, I tap into the infinite source and wisdom of the universe to support me, I am healthy, I am strong"
Having suffered with this pain all day today I am not feeling as strong :0) but I just return to my affirmations.
Now all my training for my run (such that it was – twice on the exercise bike and a couple of walks!) will stop but hey, someone up there wants me doing less. Perhaps it’s also time to spend less time at this keyboard where anything between 5-10 hours of my life is spent here every single day!
If God is testing my resolve then he’s taking me pretty close to the edge! And a black woman on the edge is a hurricane waiting to happen. Luckily for God I am a black woman with "life tools and coping strategies" on the edge so that makes me just that little bit more tolerant ;0)
If you believe in the power of pray please send one my way!
Discovering greatness
April 2, 2006 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
A few weeks ago I went through a process that brought out in me an energy that I have lived from my whole life.
It was the energy of Discovering Greatness.
I discover greatness in others but discovered that I don’t always allow people to discover it in me which was a bit of a shock!
I was doing the typical give, give, give thing without receiving. Only I didn’t realise until that moment I wasn’t receiving.
So now I am on a mission to discover greatness in every one I meet. And I mean everyone…. even those people shouting and swearing at me in the car for not going fast enough! Bless them :0)
I decided to include this as a post in it’s own right because alot has happened since this two hour process and I want to record as much of it as possible.
Why? Well firstly because then you can see that even life coaches go through their own transformation, and yes, even after years of working on myself!
The main difference I have with my clients is I have walked alot further up the path than they have and now I am getting into the real deep stuff!!!
This time next year I should be ready to be buddha! :0)
(only kidding – I mean what kind of buddha wears Gucci!)
