Any dream interpretors in the house?
I can’t sleep because I have been completely freaked out by a dream that has left me so scared I cant close my eyes and go back to sleep so I thought either I talk it out or write it out. Its 3.30am so talking to anyone is out of the question because as much as they love me my friends would KILL me if I rang them now and my partner isn’t well so I don’t want to call him either.
So the dream….. I’m at different venues. I dont recognise any of the venues. The first place is a large football stadium and there is a man with a strong upper body and only thighs for legs. He crawls along the ground, finds someone, jumps on their shoulders and wraps his legs and arms around their face and suffocates them. As people are being suffocated they make this sound of desperation as they panic and fight for air.
Everyone runs away and after the stadium I got into a four poster bed that was in a tree with a friend. We drew the curtain round the bed but I was worried that we wouldnt see the killer coming so left my friend in there and carried on running. The next place was an office and this time I had my youngest son with me. As I arrived everyone looked scared so I knew the man was already there killing people and I couldn’t understand why everyone just sat there and didn’t run. I made my son disappear somehow and decided there was no way he was staying in this dream! I went into another part of the building and started sending a txt. As I stood there the killer came in and dragged himself right past me and jumped on the shoulders of a woman who was in the room I was standing next to. The noise of desperation she made was really, really loud and scary. I ran up some stairs and heard her making that awful noise as she desperately fought for her life (the noise was really loud).
That one was too close for comfort because he had literally dragged himself right past me to kill this other woman so I decided to wake myself up (I remember the whole dream was in colour and very bright). Since waking up I havent been able to get back to sleep, so here I am at 3.45am now on the internet writing it out!
So if you think you can help me work out the meaning of the dream let me know….. I learnt about two deaths yesterday that were sudden and one completely unexpected (she was hit by a car) and I just wonder if it is because both deaths touched me.
Do you want to know the secret to becoming unstoppable? - it's all about building selfIf you always do what you always did….
Session six and the final part of my eCourse – how to ask for what you want
There’s an age old personal development saying that goes
“If you always do what you always did. Then you’ll always get what you always got!”
Another popular way to say it is
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results”
What do they mean….?
It means if you want your outcome to be different then you need to do something different. If you know that you like to smoke after eating lunch and you are trying to quit then arrange to do something directly after lunch that will take your mind off smoking. Whether its going for a walk or having lunch in the office (if you usually go out for lunch). This is about changing your normal pattern of doing things.
If you are trying to lose weight and you know when you buy a packet of biscuits and bring them into work you end up eating half the packet then don’t buy them! Even if you are known as the person to go and chat to because you always have biscuits 
Thinking you can buy the packet and not eat any (while they sit in front of you tempting you to take one) or believing that you can buy the packet of biscuits and only eat one just won’t work. You are doing the same thing and expecting different results. Chances are in 9 times out of 10 the result will be the same. You will end up eating half the packet.
Changing your habit patterns is important if you want to make change or you want to succeed where you might normally give up.
So take a look at your usual habits and asking yourself “how’s that working out for me?” – if you find in the past it didn’t work that well then change what you are doing.
If you are looking to ask for what you want look at what normally stops you from asking or look at how you usually ask and do something different. Do you usually beg people, or make them feel guilty if they don’t help you.
If you are not getting people on your side and they usually say no when you ask for help then consider changing the way you do that.
Other areas you may want to think about when it comes to always doing what you always did….
Are you in a new relationship? – take a look at how you interacted in your past relationships and see what didn’t work. Were you distant? Could you change that and talk more. Were you unreliable? Can you make a commitment to do something and fulfill on your promise?
Are you looking to achieve a goal? Why haven’t you achieved them in the past? If you set a goal what do you do that stops you from achieving it? How can you change that? If you know you always set your targets too high “How’s that working out for you?” – if it isn’t then consider making your target easier to achieve.
Are you always arguing with your teen? When they walk through the door do you find yourself asking them “Where have you been?” or “What have you been doing?” These questions make a teen feel as if you are accusing them and puts them into defense mode… especially if they walk in expecting you to ask that. Instead just ask them how they are, ask them how their day went. Change the habit of always sounding as if you are about to complain at them and just start a conversation instead.
I hope that was useful. Remember if you always do what you always did then you will always get what you always got!
Get hold of my ebook that will provide you with practical tips on how to ask for what you want
http://www.howtobooklets.net/ask-for-what-you-want-1.html
Being Able To Say No Is Also Part Of Asking
Session 5 of the Ask For What You Want free personal development ecourse focuses on being able to say NO!
Its one of the smallest words in the dictionary and yet for many being able to say no is one of the hardest ones to say. What makes it even harder is having to say NO to someone that you may have asked for help from and they said yes!
Someone saying yes to your request does not make you obligated to do the same thing. Remember at all times people have a choice and just because they choose to say yes it doesn’t mean you have to make that choice too. At all times your decision should only be based on what works for you. Doing something because you feel you have to, or should puts you in a position of feeling powerless and you should avoid that happening.
If saying NO to family, friends, ex partners or anyone close to you is hard the first thing to look at is what makes it difficult for you. Are you afraid of them? Are you afraid of their reaction if you say no? Do you want to remain “good” in their eyes so you avoid saying no?
Asking for what you want is about finding out why you don’t already and deciding what you will do to change that. Saying NO to anyone who asks you for something is exactly the same. There is a reason you can’t say NO and you need to discover what that reason is. Be honest with yourself, ask within (don’t have a conversation about it with 5 of your friends – you have your own answer!) and see what comes forward.
Just keep asking “why am I afraid to say NO?”
If you want to take it a step further sit down with a piece of paper and keep writing down the question until an answer appears and then write down the answer. Continue to just repeat the question and write it down until answers present themselves. You may write the question 10 times before you receive one answer but before long the answers will flow and you will have a list of what it is that stops you.
If you want to share what stops you saying NO then leave a comment. Also let us know what you think you can do about it (because beieve it or not you do already have the answer)
I look forward to sharing session six with you.
You can get hold of my ebook that will provide you with tips on how to say no and how to ask for what you want here
http://www.howtobooklets.net/ask-for-what-you-want/
Diane
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