Any dream interpretors in the house?
November 28, 2008 by DianeCorriette · 2 Comments
I can’t sleep because I have been completely freaked out by a dream that has left me so scared I cant close my eyes and go back to sleep so I thought either I talk it out or write it out. Its 3.30am so talking to anyone is out of the question because as much as they love me my friends would KILL me if I rang them now and my partner isn’t well so I don’t want to call him either.
So the dream….. I’m at different venues. I dont recognise any of the venues. The first place is a large football stadium and there is a man with a strong upper body and only thighs for legs. He crawls along the ground, finds someone, jumps on their shoulders and wraps his legs and arms around their face and suffocates them. As people are being suffocated they make this sound of desperation as they panic and fight for air.
Everyone runs away and after the stadium I got into a four poster bed that was in a tree with a friend. We drew the curtain round the bed but I was worried that we wouldnt see the killer coming so left my friend in there and carried on running. The next place was an office and this time I had my youngest son with me. As I arrived everyone looked scared so I knew the man was already there killing people and I couldn’t understand why everyone just sat there and didn’t run. I made my son disappear somehow and decided there was no way he was staying in this dream! I went into another part of the building and started sending a txt. As I stood there the killer came in and dragged himself right past me and jumped on the shoulders of a woman who was in the room I was standing next to. The noise of desperation she made was really, really loud and scary. I ran up some stairs and heard her making that awful noise as she desperately fought for her life (the noise was really loud).
That one was too close for comfort because he had literally dragged himself right past me to kill this other woman so I decided to wake myself up (I remember the whole dream was in colour and very bright). Since waking up I havent been able to get back to sleep, so here I am at 3.45am now on the internet writing it out!
So if you think you can help me work out the meaning of the dream let me know….. I learnt about two deaths yesterday that were sudden and one completely unexpected (she was hit by a car) and I just wonder if it is because both deaths touched me.
Would you take them for granted if you knew they’d be gone tomorrow?
November 27, 2008 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
Today is Thanksgiving for those in the USA and I want to wish you a very peaceful and joyful day.
I’ve heard the saying “live each day as if it were your last” and I always thought that meant I should go out and do something that I wouldn’t normally do, after all tomorrow I’d be dead anyway so it wouldn’t matter!
But something happened today to make me realize what it truly meant……..
It’s so very easy to take people for granted because you think that no matter what you do they will still be around. Every day my children leave for school and our farewell is the same
“Bye mum, love you, see you later” (children)
(me) “Bye babes, love you, have a great day”
We exchange good byes as I am still rushing around getting ready and they may be in a hurry to get out of the door. Its our usual goodbye because we have the belief that we will see each other again later.
But how different would my goodbye be if I knew I wasn’t coming back?
I would probably stop to give them a hug. Spend time at the door making sure they had everything they needed. Knowing me I would give them a pep talk about staying positive and doing their best 
and I would send them off with a kiss and tell them to stay happy.
That’s a completely different goodbye to just shouting bye babes down the stairs!
Today my daughters boyfriend lost his mentor and trainer. He’s a semi professional boxer and his young life has been turmoil already. The one person he had that filled him with confidence was his trainer. One day his trainer went off to visit his brother at his place of work and was hit by a fork lift truck. The truck hit him so hard he went into a coma and today he passed away. God rest his soul.
This man left his house and said “see you later” and later never came.
This event has taught me how to live each day as if it is my last. It means validating people and letting them know how much they mean to me at all times even more than I usually do. It means spending more time talking, having fun, laughing with people I love. Even though right now I am going through my own challenges it is a time to be thankful. To give thanks for where I am, who I know and how much I am loved by those that know me.
As someone who took the time to read this I want you to know that I appreciate you being a reader of my work. I know there are many things you could be reading and I am grateful that you have taken the time to read what I write.
May your day be filled with love, friendship, and joy.
An amazing maze of Relationships
November 26, 2008 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
Being a human being emotions and relationships are something over which you cannot rise. In your lives journey you’ll come across a number of individuals some of whom may really fascinate you. You’ll feel like keeping correspondence with them. Is that the world terms as ‘Relationship’?? What is it that makes these interactions so attractive and how can the comfort levels be increased?
All the relationships on this whole wide world depend on the basic quality of how well are you able to understand the other human being you are interacting with. Whether it’s your parents or partner there are three major factors governing your relationships- You’ve to accept the person as well as get accepted. This factor is more applicable in case of the relationship of partners. Neither can parents let go of you nor can you leave them at any juncture. Though after a time their involvement in your life gets minimum but still somewhere their feelings does matter. You may not agree with all the ideologies of your parents but it’s always possible to strike a balance.
If you always do what you always did….
November 25, 2008 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
Session six and the final part of my eCourse – how to ask for what you want
There’s an age old personal development saying that goes
“If you always do what you always did. Then you’ll always get what you always got!”
Another popular way to say it is
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results”
What do they mean….?
It means if you want your outcome to be different then you need to do something different. If you know that you like to smoke after eating lunch and you are trying to quit then arrange to do something directly after lunch that will take your mind off smoking. Whether its going for a walk or having lunch in the office (if you usually go out for lunch). This is about changing your normal pattern of doing things.
If you are trying to lose weight and you know when you buy a packet of biscuits and bring them into work you end up eating half the packet then don’t buy them! Even if you are known as the person to go and chat to because you always have biscuits
Thinking you can buy the packet and not eat any (while they sit in front of you tempting you to take one) or believing that you can buy the packet of biscuits and only eat one just won’t work. You are doing the same thing and expecting different results. Chances are in 9 times out of 10 the result will be the same. You will end up eating half the packet.
Changing your habit patterns is important if you want to make change or you want to succeed where you might normally give up.
So take a look at your usual habits and asking yourself “how’s that working out for me?” – if you find in the past it didn’t work that well then change what you are doing.
If you are looking to ask for what you want look at what normally stops you from asking or look at how you usually ask and do something different. Do you usually beg people, or make them feel guilty if they don’t help you.
If you are not getting people on your side and they usually say no when you ask for help then consider changing the way you do that.
Other areas you may want to think about when it comes to always doing what you always did….
Are you in a new relationship? – take a look at how you interacted in your past relationships and see what didn’t work. Were you distant? Could you change that and talk more. Were you unreliable? Can you make a commitment to do something and fulfill on your promise?
Are you looking to achieve a goal? Why haven’t you achieved them in the past? If you set a goal what do you do that stops you from achieving it? How can you change that? If you know you always set your targets too high “How’s that working out for you?” – if it isn’t then consider making your target easier to achieve.
Are you always arguing with your teen? When they walk through the door do you find yourself asking them “Where have you been?” or “What have you been doing?” These questions make a teen feel as if you are accusing them and puts them into defense mode… especially if they walk in expecting you to ask that. Instead just ask them how they are, ask them how their day went. Change the habit of always sounding as if you are about to complain at them and just start a conversation instead.
I hope that was useful. Remember if you always do what you always did then you will always get what you always got!
Get hold of my ebook that will provide you with practical tips on how to ask for what you want
How to get your ex-lover back
November 24, 2008 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
My audience offline is mainly women and since writing my blog I have developed an audience of men and women (which of course I love ) and there are times when I will receive an email asking me a question. Now if I can’t answer that question the last thing I will do is make it up (or blag as we like to say in the UK) but I will go in search of something that might help.
A few months ago a reader asked me what he should do about getting back his ex-lover. It seems he had taken her for granted and she had decided to end their relationship (and yes he has given me permission to talk about it on here!) so I recommended he got himself a copy of an ebook called “Magic of Making Up. How To Get Back Your Ex”
He emailed me yesterday to say thanks because they are not only back together but planning to get married next year. Unfortunately they are in Australia otherwise I would be at the wedding myself…. but never say never right
If you need help with bringing back someone into your life that you lost and you think it’s worth doing then take a look at this book. Click Here!
Just goes to show that asking for what you want really does work!
And if you are still trying to attract that perfect partner into your life I have heard alot of people say good things about this book (but haven’t used it myself!) called How To Be Irresistible to men and How To Be Irrestible to women (just click on the appropriate link). Take a look Click Here!
Being Able To Say No Is Also Part Of Asking
November 13, 2008 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
Session 5 of the Ask For What You Want free personal development ecourse focuses on being able to say NO!
Its one of the smallest words in the dictionary and yet for many one of the hardest. What makes it even harder is having to say NO to someone that you may have asked for help from and they said yes!
Someone saying yes to your request does not make you obligated to do the same thing. Remember at all times people have a choice and just because they choose to say yes it doesn’t mean you have to make that choice too. At all times your decision should only be based on what works for you. Doing something because you feel you have to, or should puts you in a position of feeling powerless and you should avoid that happening.
If saying NO to family, friends, ex partners or anyone close to you is hard the first thing to look at is what makes it difficult for you. Are you afraid of them? Are you afraid of their reaction if you say no? Do you want to remain “good” in their eyes so you avoid saying no?
Asking for what you want is about finding out why you don’t already and deciding what you will do to change that. Saying NO to anyone who asks you for something is exactly the same. There is a reason you can’t say NO and you need to discover what that reason is. Be honest with yourself, ask within (don’t have a conversation about it with 5 of your friends – you have your own answer!) and see what comes forward.
Just keep asking “why am I afraid to say NO?”
If you want to take it a step further sit down with a piece of paper and keep writing down the question until an answer appears and then write down the answer. Continue to just repeat the question and write it down until answers present themselves. You may write the question 10 times before you receive one answer but before long the answers will flow and you will have a list of what it is that stops you.
If you want to share what stops you saying NO then leave a comment. Also let us know what you think you can do about it (because beieve it or not you do already have the answer)
I look forward to sharing session six with you.
You can get hold of my ebook that will provide you with tips on how to say no and how to ask for what you want here
http://www.howtobooklets.net/ask-for-what-you-want-1.html
Diane
What’s so wrong about sex before marriage?
November 3, 2008 by DianeCorriette · 11 Comments
Since starting on my quest to discover the Gospel in August and to understand the teachings of Jesus Christ I have been asking questions about some of the “laws” of being a good Christian and the toughest one for me is no sex before marriage.
No drinking is flexible. You can drink but not to the point you get drunk (well at least in the eyes of some Christians) and its all about moderation. There are a few churches who just don’t allow it.
Smoking. You can continue smoking until such time as you make the decision to stop because you know its not good for your long term health.
Bad language – profanity needs to end. It’s just not acceptable and I need to work my way towards being in a place where I don’t use it. Its not a major part of my vocab but when I get going the air can turn a darker shade of blue! It’s only around people I am comfortable with and close friends so most people don’t even know how much I use it. I’m happy to let it go though and am working on it.
There are a couple I struggle with though…..
The gay community are welcome in church but at some point if they want to truly be a Christian will have to give up being gay – as if they can just give it up like you can smoking. That’s like asking me to give up being black! If being a Christian is all about love and acceptance then shouldn’t everyone be accepted exactly as they are????
Sex before marriage. There is just no give and take on this one at all. You just CAN NOT do it. Sex before marriage is not allowed and that’s it. But what I cant understand is WHY… and please dont tell me about it being wrong in God’s eyes because that’s not enough. I need to know WHY it is wrong in His eyes, who says it is and where. I understand its important not to sleep around and pick people up for one night stands but if you are in a loving committed relationship why not?
If I decided to never get married again does that mean I have to spend my life without intimacy?
Speaking to my cousin and my Pastors wife made me realise that I have been touched by the Holy Spirit and this is all now about my relationship between me and God. I enjoy thinking about it that way otherwise I would question alot of negative stuff that happens in the name of religion. So rather than focus on what others are doing I will focus on my own actions and how my actions impact my relationship with God.
I can understand the desire that develops when you wait.
I can understand the importance of sharing yourself with one soul that “belongs” to you because you are married.
I can appreciate the bond that develops as you spend time getting to know each other without sex being in the way (I guess you just do a lot of talking 
)
I can see all of that and yet ultimately isn’t it about personal choice? I don’t even get to choose whether I want to wait until I get married I just get told that I HAVE to wait and I guess that is what bothers me the most. Doing something I feel I HAVE to do rather than something I choose to.
I have more questions than answers, know less than I know more (and need to keep learning) and am losing the happiness and feeling of being uplifted that comes from attending church because it is being clouded by some “rules” I am not happy following.
These are very frustrating times
My new years starts today as I turn 42
November 3, 2008 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
There are two new years that I celebrate. The first is at Spring Equinox and Easter when for me new growth, new birth and new beginnings signal a new year and time to plant a new harvest. During that time I hold “Family Giving Thanks” day and spend a day with no TV with the kids. We eat a full roast turkey dinner and in the past have planned out our year (we didn’t create a collage last year – maybe thats why it was such a challenging one!)
The other new year is the year that begins on my birthday. Each new year brings time to reflect on the year just past and to set new goals. I am more than happy to leave behind 2007/08 and the past 12 months because despite being a major learning curve I don’t think I have ever been so challenged in all of my 41 years of being on this earth!
Major project breakdowns, lost contracts, ending of work, ending of relationships/friendships, spending on training that promised results which never happened. It was a year of me giving out on a continuous basis financially, spiritually, emotionally and in terms of my time.
Towards the end of this birthday year (around September) clarity hit and things changed. Now life is getting back on balance, business is coming in, new ideas and potential projects are beginning to show up.
My new found relationship with the teachings of Jesus Christ continues and whilst I am fighting the “rules” I am beginning to understand that this is about me, the holy spirit and my relationship with God – not church and definitely not religion!
My major goal for this year of my life is to establish my income so that it no longer goes on this roller coaster ride of up and down but is steady throughout each month. My second major goal is to plan and stick to my plan! No more taking on anything else because someone convinces me it is a good idea!
Of all the goals I set for myself last year the one I LOVE the most is having found myself in a relationship with a man who scored high when it came to listing down what I wanted from a man and a relationship, so the next 12 months will be spent nurturing and having fun with that.
Forty-one I thank you. You taught me how to be humble, patient and to understand that Divine Timing does really exist. You opened my eyes to the loving and supporting friends that I have and helped me build stronger relationships within my immediate family. I reconnected with a part of myself that was missing (being black and growing up in England) and reconnected me to my Dominican heritage. I understand now that no matter what I plan none of it really means anything and everything comes when the time is right….. I happily leave you behind and look forward to year forty two
