3 obstacles to building self confidence

Dec 2, 2010 by DianeCorriette

When I began the journey of changing my life from shy to confident it was sometimes difficult to leave the old me behind and I found there were 3 obstacles to self confidence that could have easily kept me living my old ways.

Negativity – I would constantly go back to thinking badly about myself of believing I wasn’t capable

Judgement – I judge others and of course I judged myself. It really stops you living life to the full when you are so concerned with what other people are doing with their own life or if you are afraid of what other people will be saying about you.

Worry/Fear – Both are confidence killers and will stop you from doing anything in life. They rob you of joy as you constantly fret about what might happen – living life with “what if…” really is no fun.

So what did I have to do to overcome these obstacles?

I had to focus on what I was aiming to do which was build my confidence. I had to remind myself of all the times when life was miserable because I was being negative, judging myself or worrying about something and I also had to remember times when I enjoyed being me and feeling confident.

Those were my 3 obstacles to building self confidence and I got through them one day at time, sometimes I would slip back into being the negative me and once I became conscious of what I was doing I stopped and went back to focusing on being more positive as a way to raise my confidence.

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About Diane Corriette

I write on this self development blog about building self confidence, and living a life of full self expression where you are free to be you. Being able to be confident is not so much about how you think but what you feel. To successfully build self confidence you must use your thoughts to create an image of who you want to be, and your emotions to help you feel this amazing new you and then visualise & focus on it until it becomes your reality.