Building self confidence: Why is it worth developing?

Mar 26, 2010 by DianeCorriette

Building self confidence is about accepting ourselves as worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations. There is only one thing you need to do if you want to start building self confidence and that is to take action. You must have a willingness to learn and an attitude of being “sick and tired” of your current life style, because that is what will motivate you. A desire for more. Learning techniques to raise your confidence is easy but it takes time and practice to keep your confidence at the forefront and to develop healthy self-esteem.

While most of what we are taught can help us not all of it will empower us to shine our brightest and be our best. We are made to feel guilty, called names, beaten when we do something wrong, are laughed at or shouted at when we “fail.” All this adds up to create an adult who believes they are not 100% whole and complete exactly as they are. I found it easier to believe that I had “missing pieces” or “broken parts”, that there were people who were better than I was, women who were prettier. I believed this for a large part of my life. Building my self confidence to a level where I believed that I am whole and complete exactly as I am was what made the biggest difference.

Building self confidence is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself because it will allow you to

believe in your ability to succeed whether others do or not.
be totally self expressed and devoid of how people think you “should” talk or “should” dress, or the acts you “should” take. Or even the way you “should” think, feel and behave.
Be happy to be you, in whatever way being you feel like in that moment, will be a true gift that you will be eternally grateful for.

There is absolutely no reason at all why you should suffer from a lack of self confidence because it is something over which you have absolute and immediate control. Think of building self confidence as a muscle; it never stays the same for any period of time and the more you use it the stronger it becomes. Like any muscle confidence either weakens or gets stronger so please treat your self confidence as a muscle to exercise and provide it with small daily improvements.

Your confidence plays a part in contributing to your vitality, energy level, persistence, and personal magnetism because it is all about what is on the inside, a belief in yourself and your abilities that remains constant despite the storm.

Building self confidence will lead to developing your self worth which will improve your self esteem. When you start to become responsible for who you are, what you have and what you do. It’s like a flame that starts slowly before building and gradually spreading into a huge powerful fire, which helps us to take control of our mission, values, passion and purpose. Now doesn’t that sound like something worth working towards?

About Diane Corriette

I write on this self development blog about building self confidence, and living a life of full self expression where you are free to be you. Being able to be confident is not so much about how you think but what you feel. To successfully build self confidence you must use your thoughts to create an image of who you want to be, and your emotions to help you feel this amazing new you and then visualise & focus on it until it becomes your reality.