I need a vision that scares me into action and dares me to succeed
January 8, 2010 by DianeCorriette · 2 Comments
I’ve been playing safe. It really is easy to do to be honest. After all I got over my fears, I don’t limit myself too much anyone – why should I ask anymore of myself. And yet I do.
Today I realised I need a HUGE vision, one that I might not even succeed to complete in my lifetime. One that is so big that I wake up in a cold sweat just thinking about it. One that gets me so excited that I can’t sleep from working on it.
I don’t need a man I need myself
January 5, 2010 by DianeCorriette · 3 Comments
Several years ago I came to the conclusion that
- I don’t need the big house
- I don’t need the fancy car
In order to feel fulfilled, complete and at peace. Because I don’t NEED them, I can enjoy having them without the need to hold on to them.
Have you lost your ability to really dream?
January 2, 2010 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
When life isn’t going the way that you want to it can be easy to want to give up, to believe that you are failure and to use even the possibility that you might fail to stop you from even getting started and trying. The thing is if you focus on the basics of what it takes to be successful you can get there.
If one person can be successful then we all have the potential to get there – the only thing that makes a successful person different from an unsuccessful one is the successful person kept growing and learning, they kept believing in their ability to become successful. They had a dream they wanted to fulfill and theyhey held the seed of their dream becoming successful and nurtured it towards growth and success.
You don’t have to want to run a million dollar corporation – maybe you want to learn how to play the guitar, or to save so you can travel the world for 6 months. Whatever you want for yourself going for it makes you a success. The key is to know what YOU want for YOU and to understand WHY you want it.
Why Is WHY Important?
It is so easy to work towards something and keep working towards it then get there and still feel unsatisfied. This happened to me quite a bit in the past. I kept working towards things because I read this is what successful people do.
Well knowing WHY you are working towards it will help you understand whether it is even worth doing in the first place. If you are working towards something based on your ego; for example
- you want to prove people wrong
- you want to show someone you are better than they are
- you want people to keep telling you how great you are
Then you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Achieving your goal will bring no real happiness.
It is important you WHY focuses on what your goal will give to you, how you will develop as a result of achieving it, what difference it will make to those around you and to others you may not know. Achieving a goal from a place of wanting to do something you have a passion for AND impact others is what helps you work towards greatness – because when times get tough you will be able to dig into your resources and keep going. Remembering WHY you are doing what you are doing will keep you going.
Once You Have Your WHY Dreaming Becomes Possible
People lose their ability to dream when their dreams don’t work out. When they believe “it has always been this way and it will always be this way”
When we don’t know where to start, how to start, or what it takes to get started we are limited from starting and believe our dreams are impossible to achieve.
If you have lost your ability to dream it is possible to reconnect to it. The thing to remember is if one person can do it then so can you. Once you can tell yourself that the first step is to get help. Whether you get that from a book, by attending a seminar, through a life coach – it doesn’t matter what you use as long as you use something!
This is the true nature of self help! It is about helping yourself to grow and develop. No one can do it for you.
Make Sure You Take Time To Connect & Celebrate
Working towards a dream with share willpower makes the whole journey very difficult and by the time you get to the end you are too tired to enjoy your success or you are so results driven that you move on to the next dream without even reflecting on enjoying your accomplishments.
So take time to connect to your life force as you work towards achieving any goal. Listen to your hunches because they can support you in making achieving your dream so much easier. When you consistently connect to your life force doors open, people appear when you need them, phones are answered and magic happens!
Also make sure that when you achieve even the smallest step you take time to congratulate yourself and enjoy the moment. Enjoy every step and the final accomplishment of your dream.
If you think you have lost the ability to dream I want to tell you that you really haven’t. All that has happened is you have lost the ability to see the possibility of your dream happening. You can begin to believe in the possibility when you seek out help and begin to take steps towards making it happen. No matter how small your dream if it is important to YOU then it is IMPORTANT so go for it.
What dream have you had that you have given up on lately?
Let no one enter your inner kingdom unless they come with love
December 5, 2009 by DianeCorriette · 2 Comments
“Let no one enter your inner kingdom unless they come with love” is a quote from Wayne Dyer’s book Your Sacred Self. I love that book and am re-reading it right now. It is real easy to allow someone to affect your mood, the teen who is constantly moody, the person at work who is always negative, your friend who is always complaining. You allow their mood to control how you feel and may even begin to mirror their state and begin to feel exactly the same way – but it doesn’t have to be like that.
When you refuse to allow the negative emotions of others entry you will soon find yourself unaffected by anything a person says/does – you will let them continue with their current mood/attitude, you may even make an attempt to pick them up but when they walk away you will be left feeling as happy as you were before they arrived.
How do you make that happen for yourself? Well, as Dr Dyer said, you just don’t let them in!
It’s not me…. It’s Them!
It is easy to live in a world where you believe your feelings are controlled by some one else.
“Peter makes me so mad”
“Donna always embarrasses me”
“Mark annoys me because he won’t do as I say”
What you have to remember in every instance is that no one has the power to do anything TO you but YOU can allow them to affect your mood. When you really understand that you will have a major shift in the way that you think and behave because suddenly you will have complete awareness to the fact that you are in charge of you!
The way that you view how people affect you will change to….
“I allow what Peter does to make me so mad”
“I allow what Donna says to embarrass me”
“I let the fact that Mark won’t do as I say annoy me”
Taking Responsibility For Your Own Moods!
When you move responsibility onto yourself you will gain a sense of personal power because you now accept that if you allow it to happen then you can choose to not allow it to happen and with choice comes power!
Are you going to allow what Peter does to make you mad? The choice is yours, you can still get mad at whatever it is he is doing but you are now aware of the fact that you are choosing to get mad and stay mad. That anger is all your choice.
Now let’s tackle Donna. What has she said this time? Why are her words embarrassing you? You can look at what it is that Donna says and what it triggers inside you. When you find the trigger the words have less effect. Even if you never find the trigger all you really need to do is tell yourself that if you are embarrassed then it’s down to you – because you are choosing to be that way. What would happen if you choose to make what Donna says make you laugh instead?
Even the mild annoyance you feel when Mark won’t do as he is told is NOT down to Mark, he is just busy doing whatever it is he is doing (or not doing in this case) and that annoys you.
Everything that everyone does and your reaction to it is a choice made by you
You take back your power when you learn to rid yourself of the belief that other people have any control over your emotions. In fact if anyone ever asks you “what’s the matter, am I annoying you?” you can let them know that nothing they do can annoy you without your permission.
No one has power over your emotions unless you choose to let them in!
A strong position to be in is the ability to decide what you let in and what you keep out. When someone approaches you and they are happy, uplifted, expressing love, then of course you want to choose to let that in and allow their mood to affect you! There is nothing more wonderful than sharing energy with someone who is happy because when both of you are happy you are able to lift each other and anyone around you.
Your inner self can never be destroyed unless you let it. This is how people survived slavery and concentration camps, because they realised that they had complete control over the way they thought and reacted to their cirumstances, they understood that no one could take over their mind no matter how much control they had over their body.
What you need to make this work for you is awareness, acceptance and choice. All of these things are available to you right now in this moment, you do not need to go off and read a book, listen to an audio or attend a seminar, you just need to be aware how the actions of a certain person makes you feel, you accept that this negative feeling is something you are choosing to feel and you make a choice to not let it in. If you do let it in then you accept that this was your choice.
“Let no one enter your inner kingdom unless they come with love”
Make that your choice from today
Give yourself permission to discover your greatness and succeed
November 11, 2009 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
When you embark on the journey towards discovering your greatness it is important to give yourself permission to succeed not only through words but also subconsciously.
Your subconscious mind is a powerful tool for allowing or not allowing the very thing you desire and you know whether yours is working towards helping you experience what you want (or don’t want) based on your results.
If you do not have what you want in life I would avoid thinking your subconcious mind is “against” you because what bad experiences work towards doing is teaching you a lesson of some kind. Always remember that in order to know and experience what you do want you have to understand what you don’t want too. In order to know who you truly are it helps to have some experience of who you are not!
If life is less than happy right now acknowledge and thank it as a lesson of what you don’t want and start turning that around by looking at what you do want. It really is that simple!
Self-Sabotage
I thought I had cleared out everything I needed to in order to succeed and experience wealth yet my results were still very poor. I had put myself in debt and I was looking at having to sell everything I owned to clear it off. Then I had a powerful realization that I had put myself in that position so I could get myself out of it and that is when things changed. I also believe it is why I am so passionate about teaching it too because I can only teach what I have experienced (or I make a better teacher if I do that) and sharing what I know works towards helping others.
“Focus on what you want not on what you don’t want” became my mantra and I invite you to do the same no matter where you find yourself right now.
If you are saying affirmations (which do work by the way), meditating, praying and nothing is happening take a look at how you might be unconcisouly sabotaging your own success.
Find Your Team Supporters
Another thing that really helped was having “team supporters” a group of people who could all see how great I am. They all saw something in me that I was having trouble seeing in myself. I am blessed to have family members and a number of friends who believe in my ability to succeed
We dont always see how great we are but other people do and it will help you to discover your greatness if you focus on how people see you, especially when the image of how you see yourself isn’t great.
Who are your team supporters? Who believes in your ability to succeed? Can you spend some time looking at you from their eyes so you can see what they see which is just how great you truly are?
Why we need team supporters
How long will a football team last without supporters? If the team is losing a game and the supporters are shouting encouraging words in unison willing them to win it makes a huge difference to their morale. Similarly, if the supporters are frustrated by the fact that the team are losing and begin to shout negative comments and profanity the team find it difficult if not impossible to improve the way they are playing.
What we hear about ourselves is just as powerful as what we think about ourselves so while you are working on improving your thoughts add some extra “juice” to the whole thing by finding people who believe in you. Spend time around people who can already see your greatness.
A word of caution
While team supporters are a great addition to your tool belt in the steps towards discovering your greatness I would caution you on only relying on other peoples opinion of you all the time! Everything you do must work in balance.
It is good to experience and seek out people who believe you to be great but you cross the line when you become dependent on it, or it is the only way you can make yourself feel better about who you are!
What you are doing here is finding a team to support you when you don’t feel able to support yourself but ultimately the team of YOU is the best one you can have.
Activity
Spend some time thinking about and writing down who your team supporters are!
Who are the people that support you no matter what position you are in? Even if you only have one supporter that is a start.
If you don’t already spend more time with your team supporters so that you can experience the feeling of being with people who already believe you are great.
Take that feeling that being with them gives you and remember it. Use that feeling whenever you are not feeling great about yourself or you are feeling nervous about anything.
Also use it as you say affirmations about yourself. Affirmations work when you not only say the words but also use your emotions as you say the words. Take that feeling of being great and say your affirmations. You will find a huge difference to your results.
Three Instant Supporters For Your Team
If you are open to believing in something bigger than yourself then you have an instant supporter right there. Your biggest team supporter is God. No matter what you have done He will always be there with love and compassion and if you can turn to Him in times of trouble He will support you. Building my relationship with God (outside of religion – this is not about religion for me) has been one of the greatest gifts I have given myself. The sense of senerity and strength that comes from just connecting to Him is amazing.
Your second biggest team supporter really can be You and that is the journey you are on as you discover your own inner greatness. You can help by being open to supporting yourself. Here’s an affirmation that might help
“I am willing to look towards becoming one of my biggest supports of all time”
Repeat that affirmation often because by acknowleding your willingness you are already on your way to succeeding.
Your third supporter is ME! I may not even know you but I already know you are great because I believe there is greatness within us all. The difference between you and someone who may never discover theirs is your willingness to do the work that is needed to succeed at this. In my book that already makes you great. You are not passively accepting life as it is now but you are actively looking to make it better. That too makes you great in my book and I acknowledge you for being willing to do that. So put me down as one of your greatest supporters!
Giving yourself permission to succeed is essential in the journey towards discovering your greatness. Having a loving team of supporters who already see how great you are will also help to lessen the effects of the negative things you say about yourself. Building a relationship with God will help to add to you experiencing your greatness at a level that no man can match but ultimately your own thoughts, words and actions will determine what you will experience in your life.
Life really is simple. Either we experience what we don’t want or we experience what we want. Our job is to discover how we move from one to the other.
Did you know life was never meant to be a struggle?
September 29, 2009 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
I decided to re-read the book Life was never meant to be a struggle by Stuart Wilde (or booklet as he calls it) as a refresher to where I am right now, which I intellectually understand is as a result of my thoughts and emotions rather than on my actions. Because I always highlight the books I read it means when I pick them up again I tend to only focus on the highlight bits which makes re-reading it faster and I take in the main points, although I sometimes wonder what I might miss out on too (that’s the control freak in me!)
Here are some great quotes:
“……… If you accept full responsibility for your life, you will accept that your destiny is created by you. And that your life is basically a symbol of your inner most thoughts and feelings – of what you believe about yourself.
He identifies a number of characters that “live” in the strugglers hall of fame:
The Hero – weakness – a lack of personal acceptance
The Terrorist – weakness – Bears a grudge on society
Professional Wimp – weakness – Does not command life
“Spiritual” Wimp – weakness – huge ego, feels like God dropped him off on earth to sit around being “special”
The Goddess – weakness – similar to spiritual wimp, may dress like a man, act tougher or with a anything you can do I can do better attitude
Wilting Wallflower – weakness – I am not capable please help me (this one was definitely be back in the day!!)
The conclusion of Life Was Never Meant to be a Struggle by Stuart Wilde:
Once you acknowledge and accept the struggles in your life (and it takes courage to identify them) then you have the power to transend.
“Once you accept you are the cause of struggle you can then affirm, with certainty, that all struggle in your life can be eliminated, given time”
Of course the important part of that whole sentence is the “given time” but because transcending what is right now into what you desire will not always happen within days or weeks, sometimes the journey is years long.
I have spent the last 18 years of my life constantly changing as I learn more about myself and sometimes I must admit to just getting plain ole tired of it all!!! Its time to stablize, normalize and just live life. If life was never meant to be a struggle then maybe I should stop attempting to end the struggle and just flow with what is.
Greatness in the face of fear!
June 24, 2009 by DianeCorriette · Leave a Comment
If there is one thing I can’t stand it’s people who shout!
I mean is there really a need for it? And in helping me to Discover my Greatness is it productive and supportive.
Well yes actually it is…..!!!
Another ahh moment! Discovering greatness is not just about people telling me how wonderful I am (which I always appreciate of course :0) )
Discovering my greatness is about being face to face with someone who is angry and spitting fire, and being able to see the greatness in them. Not the annoyed adult hurling abuse at me, but the wonderful spirit that lives within them.
So the way I discover my greatness is to stand in front of a room full of negative people and dare to stand up and be great!!!!
Does everything really happen for a reason?
June 20, 2009 by DianeCorriette · 3 Comments
It was always my belief that things happen for a reason. That life hits us with events that we have no control over but when we look at the bigger picture there was always a reason for it happening, a lesson to learn.
Then last month I read something in the local paper that shocked me. A mother had lost her daughter. Her daughter threw herself off a building to her death. Why? Because she was mourning the loss of her sister. Two years before her young teenaged sister had been raped and then stabbed to death.
It made me think. Could I stand in front of this mother and tell her everything happens for a reason? The answer is no I could not. It made me question whether I had taken on believing something I read in a book that sounds great in theory but doesn’t always fit in practise.
I still believe that when an event happens to me personally I can take a look at that event and see how dealing with it will help me transform my way of thinking, feeling or behaving. But I have to admit that if something happened to my children I don’t think I could be that charitable.
Finding Myself in Me
April 10, 2009 by DianeCorriette · 3 Comments
[RE-POSTED] This is an old blog post that I wrote back in August 2006 but I loved it so much I thought I would save it again today.
I can still recall the “AHA!” moment I had a few years ago when after years of searching for something and never knowing what it was I was searching for, after years of personal development seminars, books, CDs, and videos I finally realised all that time I was searching for myself! And this is a great story to illustrate that very fact.
An old Hindu legend tells of an ancient time when all human beings were gods. But the people so lacked appreciation of their divine nature, however, that the other Gods decided to take it away from them. Brahma, the supreme God, wanted to hide human divinity where people would never find it again, and asked his fellow gods to help him find the best place. One God suggested that they bury human divinity deep in the Earth, but Brahma thought they would surely dig deep enough to find it again. Another God wanted to sink it into the depths of the greatest ocean, but Brahma thought that humans would eventall learn to dive deep enough to find it and take it up again. Another God suggested they store it at the top of the highest mountain, but Brahma knew that people would eventually climb high enough to conquer every peak on Earth. Frustrated, the council of Gods decided that there wasn’t a single place on Earth that humans wouldn’t know and conquer, eventually. So Brahma himself began to think of ways to hid human divinity. He thought for a long time. Finally, he said “We cannot hide their divinity on Earth, for they are determined to own all the planet. But if we hid their divinity within their own being, they will never think to look for it there.”
We humans have been looking for our divinity ever since!
That extract was taken from the book Invisible Acts of Power by Caroline Myss
Personal Growth For Women Blog Carnival
March 29, 2009 by DianeCorriette · 3 Comments
sonal effectiveness, happiness or worried about fat content there is a blog post here for everyone. When you visit to read the blog post feel free to leave a comment for the writer if you enjoyed their post.ITAKEOFFTHEMASK presents Balancing the Root Chakra for Health and Stability posted at itakeoffthemask.com.
Patricia Turner presents The Top 50 Self Defense Blogs posted at Forensic Science Technician.
Deposit Accounts presents A Wish is a Goal Unfulfilled posted at Deposit Accounts.
Debbie Dragon presents US Moms Guiltier Than Moms in France posted at Empowering Mom.
confidence and personal development
axel presents Jet-Like Motivation posted at axel g.
Greg Laden presents Palaeowomaen: Barbara Isaac, Women in The Field, and The Throwing Hypothesis posted at Greg Laden’s Blog.
Cory presents Fat is Overrated posted at Eating Healthy, saying, “Dieters often focus too much on fat instead of limiting overall calories, especially carbs.”
Robin Birch presents How To Find Happiness posted at Let’s Live Forever!, saying, “Finding happiness is an individual process – the things that make other people happy won’t necessarily make us happy. We need to find our own flow!”
Ella Moss presents VENUS RETROGRADE « Zodiac Times posted at Zodiac Times, saying, “Venus goes retrograde, and so do our lives”
Relax presents Knowledge can become your enemy if you are not careful (The Curse of Knowledge) posted at The Wise Curve, saying, “Common sense tells us that knowledge brings power. But do you know that knowing too much might do you harm?”
bryan presents Secrets To Success Part 9 posted at Personal Development and Growth.
Celes presents Are You Looking For A Relationship To Complete Yourself? posted at EmbraceLiving.Net, saying, “Are you looking for a relationship to complete yourself? In this article, I share my personal experience as a single female and dispel the unhealthy notion surrounding singlehood in our society today.”
Pregnancy Hut presents How to Exercise Safely During Your Pregnancy posted at Pregnancy Calendar, saying, “Some ideas for exercising safely during pregnancy.”
Woman Divorce Support presents Divorce Advice for Women: Help with Support and Recovery at Woman Divorce Support posted at Divorce Advice, saying, “Help for divorcees.”
bryan presents Secrets To Success – Finale posted at Personal Development and Growth.
Vincent presents Are You Using The 80/20 Principle In Your Life? posted at Hit Your Goals, saying, “The 80/20 rule will allow you to filter out the unnecessary work in your life so that you can double your productivity and double your time off at the same time.”
Relax presents The art of taking risk posted at The Wise Curve, saying, “mastering the art of taking risk will bring you one step closer to success in your career, study, relationship, investment, and many more areas in your life.”
personal growth
Jim DeSantis presents Free eBook – Credit Rescue! posted at Emotions and Credit at On Line Tribune, saying, “How emotions impact credit is a subject that few people think about but more and more therapists are talking about. As a Pastoral Counselor I have long known that there is a powerful link between our emotions and our money. We may think that money is all about our rational selves but, in fact, our emotions very much determine our financial decisions.”
Alvaro Fernandez presents Brain Health News: Top Articles and Resources in March posted at SharpBrains: Your Window into the Brain Fitness Revolution, saying, “There’s such a flood of research studies and educational resources related to brain health, it’s hard to keep track. Here you have a selection of them – including a free Staying Sharp DVD offered by the Dana Alliance for Brain Initiatives.”
self realization
Stacey T Pollock presents Emotions are learnt paradigms posted at Creation Theory Revised.
Jim Hudson presents Enhance the Effectiveness of your Vision Board posted at Accelerate Me! Personal Development Blog.
Stephen Martile presents 4 Ways to Finding Purpose in Life posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile, saying, “Hi Diane,
Finding purpose in life gives you direction and guidance. It channels inner forces and energy to overcome outer circumstances and conditions. It’s at the crux of leading your life, instead of having life lead you.
Are you doing what you love?”
Jim Hudson presents How to Meditate your way to Happiness and Success posted at Accelerate Me! Personal Development Blog.
bryan presents Personal Development and Growth posted at Personal Development and Growth.
Burak Bilgin presents Realize Your Vision posted at Distiller’s Corner, saying, “A vision is an ultimate goal, an idea that is worth devoting your life to. We don’t need a reason to live, but living without a vision, without a purpose is nothing but a bare existence.”
Carole Fogarty presents Boost Your Energy Now: posted at THE HEALTHY LIVING LOUNGE, saying, “Low energy, exhaustion and fatigue are at epidemic levels. Now is not the time to suck it in, grit your teeth, clench your fists and press on. Get wise and stop or dramatically reduce all unecessary energy drains. It’s time to get clever and start rebuilding your personal energy levels now.”
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