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Self talk, your inner voice and self confidence

DianeCorriette — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 01:54:54 +0000

All of us have a “voice” within us that talks to us every single day. It decides what we are going to wear, it makes comments about the things we say and what other people say to us, it empowers and/or it tears us down.

Your self talk or inner voice has been created based on our past experiences and will have a major impact on your self confidence. Even the experiences we think we have forgotten about, or we don’t think about on a daily basis are buried deep within us. This inner voice that constantly speaks within you will be repeating those original events and messages to you daily.

When you spend time building your self confidence you can get to a place where your inner voice has very little control over you, it will be positive and reassuring the majority of the time, and you will be able to dismiss any negative messages. For people with low self esteem your inner voice will be your own worst enemy, your saboteur and critic, constantly belittling your efforts, punishing you for the mistakes you make and criticizing whatever goes wrong.

Have you ever found yourself struggling with something that you really want to achieve but you keep talking yourself out of? Do you ever find yourself berating yourself for something that you’ve done? That’s your inner voice.

If you are struggling with doing what you really want to in life check out what your inner voice is saying to you. Maybe it’s letting you know that there is no way you can achieve something. Is it telling you not to take the risk of starting your own business because you will fail?

The best way to change the messages that your inner voice is throwing at you is to find things you have accomplished, no matter how small, almost as a counter argument. Yes but…. You can tell it, and then remind yourself of that achievement of yours.

Ultimately, this is your voice, it’s in your head, so you have complete control over it and that’s the thing you need to remember. It’s time to take back control of your inner voice. When I first started I would use foul language and tell it to “shut the f**k up!” I think using what I saw as an extreme word shook me out of my pattern and made me stop. An alternative is just to thank it for sharing….. “thank you for sharing that… and I am going to choose to ignore you”

It is time to let your inner voice know who is in charge…. YOU! You have complete control always remember that. After all it is your voice so talk back to your inner voice in whatever way works for you, this is the way to combat it and let it know who is really in charge.

Spend time making notes about the kind of inner voice you have, does it tend to be unfairly harsh and say things like

“Everyone said they loved what you cooked, but it wasn’t as good as when your mum cooks and they were probably just being nice because let’s face it you burnt the dessert and didn’t cook enough for everyone”

Just thank your inner voice for sharing its opinion and suggest a positive statement like

“Wow! I did really well today cooking that meal, there were parts of it I can improve on but I managed to serve the food while it was hot, and everyone enjoyed being together, we had fun. I am really proud of what I managed to get done today”

If your inner voice is a dramatic generalizing voice that tends to exaggerate:

“You really messed up your part in the play, EVERYONE was laughing at you and NO ONE will EVER forget it, I will NEVER be able to show my face again”

Get specific with it to put it in its place:

“Okay so I forgot my lines during the play but it’s only one play, everyone will soon forget about it. I just need to spend some time looking over my lines again for tomorrow. I will make sure my performance really improves”

Begin to recognize what your inner voice is saying and why, counteract whatever it tells you that is negative with a positive statement or promise. Many times whatever it is saying is simply not true, so find why you might want to say that about yourself and what you may be protecting yourself from.

Using positive statements and self-talk often will train your unconscious mind to change what you believe about yourself and support you in improving your self-esteem.

Give yourself time to really immerse yourself in positive statements and to make them a natural part of your life because it will really help you build self confidence. This is a journey, not a quick fix and you will need the patience to keep affirming yourself when your inner voice decides to do otherwise.

7 core principles of a balanced life

DianeCorriette — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 19:58:02 +0000

Now that I have taken myself to the “dark side” and come back from it I thought it might be a great idea to have a set of guiding principles to live by – something to remind me of how to be in the present without worrying about the future or thinking about the mistakes of the past.

All seven of these principles have self confidence at the heart of them because without confidence in myself I can never be strong enough to carry them all through. They are a combination of all the books I have ever read, all the seminars I have ever attended and the life coaching I have done when coaching was my main way of earning a living.

7 Core principles of a balanced life

1. Mental Health

Relating to stress at work or home, anxiety, and fear. Using prayer, meditation and breathing to work through them.

2. Financial Wealth

Enough to live the life I choose and enjoy travel, living in other countries and being able to support people around me.

3. Physical strength

To regularly exercise and ensure my fitness level remains at a high enough level for me to remain active, strong, flexible and pain free.

4. Spiritual connection

Using prayer, meditation and visualisation I stay connected to God. In service to others and humble in my approach to life.

5. Physical connection

To regularly connect with people I love and to take an active part in my community. I don’t need to have loads of people in my life – I don’t define who I am that way. I love to be close to three or four people and everyone else is an “associate” or a “person I know” – I wouldn’t call myself a loner but I am happy being alone. So my physical connection to others (outside of close friends and family) is one of my biggest challenges.

6. Healthy Eating

The last few years and declining health has taught me just how important food is and what I choose to put into my body. I am getting better at it and just like building my confidence was a huge challenge for me when I first started, now the huge challenge is being disciplined enough to eat more of the foods made by Mother Nature and less of the burger and fries made by fast food man

7. Creative Expression

Very important to me is my continuous personal growth, setting and achieving personal and professional goals, enjoying social events and having fun. Will be engaging in more of this in 2011!

So there you have it. My 7 core principles of a balanced life. They are not written in order of importance because they are all important. These are standards I want to maintain in my life because doing so will make me happy. They are subjective, relative, and linked in such a way that to mess up one means messing up others. These 7 princples are the parts that make the whole and if one side is out the other parts suffer.

That is how I choose to measure myself, which makes it valid and workable for me.

Do you have core beliefs or pinciples that you live your life by? Have you defined what they are and written them down? Maybe you are already living them or maybe they are standards by which you want to live. Mine are a mixture of the two.

If you don’t define the life you want how will you know you are living it? Or are you a free spirit who prefers to live without definition – just flowing with whatever life chooses to throw at you?

Jazzie B On Self Esteem and Confidence

DianeCorriette — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 19:38:27 +0000

I watched this great video over at the BBC on confidence and self esteem that I thought I would share.

Soul ll Soul’s Jazzie B on self-esteem and confidence – JazzieB was part of Jamie Olivers dream school and his views on confidence are great to listen to.

He was lucky enough to have his confidence instilled in him while he was young and that helped him succeed in life. The impact of living without self confidence from a young age is an area I am passionate about and we need to be careful about the messages we place in the young minds of children who will believe what adults tell them about who they are.

What is self confidence [audio]

DianeCorriette — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 11:19:15 +0000

What is self confidence on audio. I have added the video in this blog post and the audio is below. If you think the PowerPoint presentation will help you you can download that by clicking the link below.

WhatIs-SelfConfidence (PDF POWERPOINT)

What is self confidence audio (CLICK THE LINK)

What is self confidence

DianeCorriette — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 08:50:09 +0000

Overcome Stress by Prioritising [audio]

DianeCorriette — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 13:49:41 +0000

I wrote a blog post about to how overcome stress by priortising <== click the link if you prefer to read it.

Below is an audio that covers the same points. How to chunk you day into four major categories and deal with what’s urgent and important first, leaving the non urgent or important items to later in the day or to another day.

I mention an ebook about breaking free from stress <== click the link to buy your copy

How to overcome stress by prioritising what’s important

DianeCorriette — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 13:10:13 +0000

Nowadays it is easy to feel as if you have the world on your shoulders and that there is a lot to do. If you are feeling stressed out from everything you have to get done and feel as if your day needs to be 48 hours because: your boss requested that you finish that report at home, you need to walk the dog, your wife needs you to go to the local shop, and you still need to help Sam with his homework then here is a simple solution for you.

A simple solution to help you overcome stress is by prioritizing your busy day into manageable chunks of what needs to be done. The trick is to know out of everything you need to get done what you will priortise and what you won’t.

You need the willpower of drop whatever is not urgent and important in your day and try to delegate some of the other stuff. Here is a quick way to choose:

Get a pen and paper. Or open your computer’s spreadsheet or word processing program.

Make categories: “urgent and important”, “important but not urgent”, “urgent but not important”, and “not important nor urgent”.

Under “important and urgent,” write down what you need to do now that is of high importance. The kind that if you don’t do tonight, you’ll get fired. Make sure that these are really important, that not doing this would have a big consequence.
Next, under “important but not urgent,” write what is of great importance to you but you can do tomorrow or next week.
Under “urgent but not important,” write down what you want to do today, but not really essential to survive another (normal 24-hour) day. Look at whether you can delegate anything under this column to someone else.
Finally, under “not important nor urgent,” write what you honestly could live without.
Now I want you to go through your list and anything under Category 1 (urgent and important), see how much you could squeeze today, with enough breathing space and time to sleep for 6-8 hours. Budget your day around that, and make sure you stick to that schedule. If your day still runs over, this means you need to choose some tasks and schedule them the next day. If it’s not on a deadline anyway, do so.

For Category 2 (important but not urgent), schedule a maximum number of 5 tasks from this list to do daily, with the task’s deadline in mind. Make sure to make some allowance for Murphy’s Law (everything that can go wrong will go wrong), if it’s a really important task.

For Category 3 (urgent but not important), if a task on the list says “send email greetings to sister today,” do it after everything else in Category 1 has been done. Unless it is your sister’s birthday and you don’t want to miss it.

Finally for Category 4 (not important nor urgent): Yes, you can live without checking Facebook (or your blog or whatever) today. So turn off your computer, take a bath, do something that relaxes you and make time for yourself. If you have delegated tasks allow some time to check they have been done.

Simple, right? Now, all you need is the willpower to stick to the list and learn to realise that not checking Facebook today will not result in severe stomach ulcers!

Once you get into a routine you will find that you now know how to streamline your day by priortising what’s important.

If you are looking for tips to help with overcoming stress click the link and check out our eBook that will help even more – Break Free Of Stress

Science of getting rich chapter 15

DianeCorriette — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 15:54:47 +0000

CHAPTER 15 The Advancing Man
WHAT I have said in the last chapter applies as well to the professional man and the wage-earner as to the man who is engaged in mercantile business.

No matter whether you are a physician, a teacher, or a clergyman, if you can give increase of life to others and make them sensible of the fact, they will be attracted to you, and you will get rich. The physician who holds the vision of himself as a great and successful healer, and who works toward the complete realization of that vision with faith and purpose, as described in former chapters, will come into such close touch with the Source of Life that he will be phenomenally successful; patients will come to him in throngs.

Science of getting rich chapter 14

DianeCorriette — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 15:52:03 +0000

CHAPTER 14 The Impression of Increase

WHETHER you change your vocation or not, your actions for the present must be those pertaining to the business in which you are now engaged.

You can get into the business you want by making constructive use of the business you are already established in; by doing your daily work in a Certain Way.

And in so far as your business consists in dealing with other men, whether personally or by letter, the key-thought of all your efforts must be to convey to their minds the impression of increase.

Science of getting rich chapter 13

DianeCorriette — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 15:41:59 +0000

CHAPTER 13 Getting into the Right Business

SUCCESS, in any particular business, depends for one thing upon your possessing in a well-developed state the faculties required in that business.

Without good musical faculty no one can succeed as a teacher of music; without well-developed mechanical faculties no one can achieve great success in any of the mechanical trades; without tact and the commercial faculties no one can succeed in mercantile pursuits. But to possess in a well-developed state the faculties required in your particular vocation does not insure getting rich.
The different faculties are tools; it is essential to have good tools, but it is also essential that the tools should be used in the Right Way. One man can take a sharp saw, a square, a good plane, and so on, and build a handsome article of furniture; another man can take the same tools and set to work to duplicate the article, but his production will be a botch. He does not know how to use good tools in a successful way.There are musicians who have remarkable talent, and who yet remain poor; there are blacksmiths, carpenters, and so on who have excellent mechanical ability, but who do not get rich; and there are merchants with good faculties for dealing with men who nevertheless fail.

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