Confidence is a journey that requires discipline
I watched the video below today and wanted to add it here because it relates very strongly to building self confidence and (as I keep saying) the fact that this is a journey not a destination, one where you succeed when you focus on progress rather than perfection and also one that requires discipline.
What is discipline – well when you look at the image below you will see the definition of discipline is “the practice of training people to obey rules” in this case it isn’t people but YOU and you are working towards obeying your own rules. If you say you are going to say your affirmation three times a day or six months that is your rule, discipline helps you stick to it.
So how do you develop discipline? It’s explained in the video and I love it because it is simplistic and yet it has the potential to be difficult for many.
“Discipline starts when you decided it does – just decide to start being more disciplined and do it.”
I know how lovely and simple that sounds “just do it” but I also know how difficult that can be (in the area of fitness I suck at discipline right now) and that is why more than anything it is important that you remember confidence is a journey that requires discipline AND a focus on progress not perfection.
What will help you on your journey is basic practice. Listen to the story he tells of someone who wanted to become a master. He was told to practice and come back in 3 years time. He was told that 3 times. That is a total of 9 years! Are you ready to wait 9 years to build your self confidence because most people aren’t. They expect instant results or they don’t want to even bother to try. Nine years later when their life is still CRAP they wish they started 9 years ago!
Time is going to pass anyway so rather than complain about waiting the end result now enjoy the journey and be ready to do whatever it takes to build your self confidence.
As the presenter said you need to ask questions of yourself and other people to make building self confidence work for you. You need to find passion in the most mundane things so you can get them done. Rather than see it as hard work find the joy in it (I constantly have to do this when i pick up an iron 
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Remove the idea that there is a finish line – confidence is a never ending process that you need to learn how to enjoy
Here’s the video
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About Diane Corriette
I write on this self development blog about building self confidence, and living a life of full self expression where you are free to be you. Being able to be confident is not so much about how you think but what you feel. To successfully build self confidence you must use your thoughts to create an image of who you want to be, and your emotions to help you feel this amazing new you and then visualise & focus on it until it becomes your reality.
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When I hear the word “discipline” it always makes me cringe but I understand what you mean by the fact that we must at least do our best to obey our own rules
I know there are things I can do every day to help improve my self confidence but like you say it is not so much knowing it but actually doing something with it I guess
Discipline really isn’t something I do well!
Great advice Diane. I am loving the focus on progress and on understanding this is a journey that may not have an end. It really does remove the need for frustration
Thank you for this timely remind. What makes it hard to keep going for me is always thinking I should be further by now – seeing it as a journey helps put an end to that
@Karen. I had to let go of my own past limiting beliefs to use this word. For me discipline meant a beating if I got it wrong! That’s when I use techniques like EFT to tap away the emotion associated with the memory. Its great stuff.
Focusing on the journey and focusing on self confidence as a journey does help to make the whole thing less frustrating and you may even begin to enjoy the journey rather than keeping looking ahead to see if it is coming to an end.
Thanks for reading and for the comments. Really appreciate it. Keep them coming
Like you I am not always that great at sticking to my own rules but I do try!