I don’t need a man I need myself

Several years ago I came to the conclusion that

• I don’t need the big house
• I don’t need the fancy car

In order to feel fulfilled, complete and at peace. Because I don’t NEED them, I can enjoy having them without the need to hold on to them.

Then in 2008 I came to the realization that I don’t NEED money….. again this took me to the same place. Now I know I can have money and as much of it as I like because whether I have it or not I can still feel fulfilled, complete and at peace (trust me I have experienced both ; having and not having.)

It is 2010 and what NEED am I giving up? Well, I have found another thing I don’t NEED and that is a man! I was always in a conversation that “I need a man” but now I realise I don’t NEED a man to feel fulfilled, complete and at peace and because I don’t NEED a man then I can enjoy being in relationship with one without needing him to “do stuff” for me.

When we stop needing stuff that is when we can truly enjoy having it in our life – without worrying about it disappearing and without being fearful of what will happen if we lose it.

So where does this feeling of being fulfilled, complete and peaceful come from – from myself – a deep connection to my soul! From an understanding that everything I need has already been provided and there is actually nothing I need. Plus if I do feel a need for it I know I can connect to my soul as the source.

Having this connection will stop you from feeling as if you really NEED to eat the whole packet of chocolate biscuits to feel better. Or that you really NEED to ring your ex boyfriend and invite him over for the night. It stops you from doing things that provide short term pleasure while denying you long term happines.

If you want to start your own journey of giving up the need for things and working towards a deeper connection to yourself and your soul (spirit, energy) Guy Finley has a great  free personal development starter kit

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