Importance of personal growth
Have you ever thought about the importance of personal growth? Most people don’t – they go through life believing how it is, is how it will always be – as if we have no choice and life just happens to us.
For those of us who focus on developing ourselves we understand that life can be changed and turned into something that makes us really happy, as long as we are willing to put in the effort of making that happen.
Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us – when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of wine. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read through her transparent mind, chances are you might see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself in the mirror and murmurs to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope me and Donna work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and wish for the same thing. How many women would have loved the life the Princess Diana was living when she was alive and yet how very unhappy was she most of the time!
We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from a lack of self-confidence and lose hope in confidence building because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough! In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself are a representation and a product of personal development by building your confidence.
Michael Jackson sang about changing the main in the mirror, when you embrace the importance of personal growth you too will focus only on yourself. We can not control what other people will say or do but we can control how we react to it and how it affects our life.
Confidence building makes us better people, we then inspire other people in our community, which leads on to inspiring people in other countries and then the rest of the world will follow.
Accept Who And Where You Are To Begin Change
Stop thinking of yourself as a second-rate being. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on unless you are going to actively do something to make it happen.
Before you can do that though you must accept where you are right now and who you are now. It might not be who you want to become but accepting your true self is one of the first steps to confidence building.
It is important that you stop comparing yourself to others – because as I said earlier if you knew the truth about them you might be totally surprised.
In my work that I do online I used to wish I was like some of the top online marketers who (it seemed) were so successfully at making money in their business. When I had the opportunity to meet and talk to many of them the reality – for those who were authentic enough to open up and share – was something different.
You and I have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. It is a natural tendency to wish for better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life does not have to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves and in fact, until you can accept where you are now you will find it difficult to get what you desire. Chances are, even if you do get it you won’t hold on to it for very long!
Confidence building and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy. You will be amazed what wonderful things happen in our life when that happens.
All of this is an essential part of personal growth – so right now – make the decision that you will begin working towards being thankful instead of wishing you had something you don’t have. Believe me it is one of the biggest sources of misery!
When you wish for something you don’t have you are living in the future. Instead bring yourself right back to this moment. Be in this moment and tell yourself you are blessed, remind yourself on the importance of personal development and make a promise to continue building your self confidence and working towards enjoying life.
Only you can make this happen.
About Diane Corriette
I write on this self development blog about building self confidence, and living a life of full self expression where you are free to be you. Being able to be confident is not so much about how you think but what you feel. To successfully build self confidence you must use your thoughts to create an image of who you want to be, and your emotions to help you feel this amazing new you and then visualise & focus on it until it becomes your reality.
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