It really will help your personal growth if you spend time printing off and hanging up images that remind you to stay focused. For everyone who loves images and words (you can click the link to read my blog post self confidence means progress not perfection) or instead of words I hope the image below helps.

I also added it as a PDF to SlideShare (see below) – in that PDF I mention my ongoing ‘fight’ to overcome my dark moods. For months I’d be unhappy with everything in my life. My relationship, my job, my personal life (or lack of it) and the first thing I wanted to do when I began to build my own self confidence (back in 1991) was to look at being more happy with my life.

I was reading, listening to and watching a range of different self-help material as well as attending workshops and after five years I was still experiencing these moods. The only difference now is they didn’t last as long as they used to. The more I worked on myself the less I experienced the torment of them until they subsided all together.

I can still experience them now if I allow them to overtake me – challenges in life never stop because you are more confident but you have a better way of dealing with them -  now I am much better at stopping them in their tracks. Instead I will start by asking myself questions, which will get to the heart of what is bothering me and sorting it out from there.

In the past when these moods threatened to return and once I had the life tools to manage them better I did things like repeat my affirmations and remind myself that I love and approve of myself (a lot of times I had to forgive myself for not believing that enough!) I then spent time seeing a more confident me in my visualization until I felt better.

Sometimes just putting on some music and dancing helped, phoning a friend who made me laugh or focusing my mind on doing something I enjoyed.  I found volunteering and helping others really helped to pull me out of my own self-pity. I had a variety of tools and I managed these moods the best way I knew how.

What I really wish I had back then was emotional freedom technique (EFT) – because when I discovered that gem everything changed. You don’t have to experience dark moods for years like I did. You can work on them and help yourself through them using the EFT tapping procedure. I will be talking more about that in future blog posts.

 

Progress not perfection

The audio version is below (just under my bio)

Here’s the image for you
self confidence make progress not perfection

 

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