Say goodbye to the naysayers
Unfortunately when we decide to change and begin on the path of
personal and professional development there will be people who are non
too happy about it!
Maybe they have been "better
than you" in their eyes for a long time, and to see you suddenly
progressing upsets the status quo! When my ex husband left I had a
"friend" who was always there for me, she did whatever she could to
help.
She often came round to share what her husband had
bought for her, or what they were buying next (the car, the new house).
Then one day I decided I was going to return to study and my study
included gaining myself a degree. Within a few months of starting that
course this "friend" disappeard and within the year we were no longer
in touch with each other.
Why? because suddenly I was no longer "down there" but was doing something to actively ensure I developed and moved forward.
Family
are another bunch that can very easily dampen your dreams. Sometimes
not intentionally. But for a husband who sees his wife progressing, or
a mother watching her child become independent, it may just be the
thought of things changing. They may also feel "unwanted" or like they
are no longer of use.
The easiest way to avoid people close to
you putting you down is to discuss your plans with them and provide
constant reassurance. Of course some people are just plain negative and
what you will need to do is develop your own inner strength to deal
with that.
Are you still ready to continue on your path despite
not having the blessings of family and friends? Do you believe in what
you want to achieve enough to perserve when times get challenging? If
you have 10 people standing in front of you telling you "it can’t be
done" or "its not worth doing it" or even worse "you are just not good
enough to do it" will you continue anyway. Will you believe in yourself
enough to allow them to say their piece without it changing your
decision. I know I did. And I have never looked back.
Be
grateful for all those that come into your life and challenge your
dreams because they are testing your own strength in what you want to
accomplish. See them as little reminders that are asking the question
"do you really want this?" Chances are, if you don’t then you will
listen to their "advice" and use this as your reason and excuse for not
having what you want in your life, for not achieving what you knew you
could. But when you choose to create your own path, when you choose to
believe in the power of intention to achieve your goals, then something
quite magical happens.
Trust me.
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