Self confidence and feeling absolutely fabulous
Yesterday at a networking event (my first one for 5 years!) someone remarked on how at ease I am with myself. I know that self confidence and feeling absolutely fabulous go hand in hand eventually. At some point something happens and you just naturally give off this vibe with being okay with who you are. I wish I could put a timescale on it or tell you when you will know – well actually I can tell you when you will know – because people will mention it. The need to be around you, talk to you, connect to you, a love of listening to your voice or just generally loving your “vibe!”
It is not something you can fake and to be honest it isn’t even something I can articulate that well. My spiritual coach will tell me it is because I am connected to my soul. When you are connected to that higher part of you there is something that makes you different.
Anyway, I just can’t seem to explain it so if you read this and have a suggestion on what it is I am talking about I would love to hear how it manifests for you. Maybe it is different for us all. What I do know is that I don’t know I am doing it (whatever IT is) and that it connects me to people in a way that is beyond the superficial and I love it 
I have a video here from a virtual friend who I love dearly called Hayley Solich to remind you about how absolutely fabulous you are and if self confidence and feeling absolutely fabulous is something you want for yourself I recommend starting with Guy Finley – he can show you how to connect to your highest, most fabulous self!
Do you want to know the secret to becoming unstoppable? - it's all about building selfThe a-z or building self confidence
I am in the middle of writing a self confidence guide and was going through this a-z section so thought I would add it here.
A. Ask yourself questions. Building self confidence is all about knowing why you do the things you do and the only way to know that is to ask.
B. Believe in your self, and in what you can do. If you don’t who will. If you can’t believe in yourself first work towards not DISBELIEVING.
C. Catch yourself in moments of doubt. To begin to reverse your lack of self confidence and begin building self confidence you need to catch yourself in those moments when you are not thinking good things about yourself.
D. Don’t give in and don’t give up. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make building self confidence a high priority and never give up.
E. Enjoy the process. There are going to be days when building self confidence may seem like hard work. Change your perspective and see challenging days as another day to work through. Forgive yourself if you beat yourself up over something and move on by resolving to do things differently next time.
Do you want to know the secret to becoming unstoppable? - it's all about building selfBuilding self confidence: Why is it worth developing?
Building self confidence is about accepting ourselves as worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations. There is only one thing you need to do if you want to start building self confidence and that is to take action. You must have a willingness to learn and an attitude of being “sick and tired” of your current life style, because that is what will motivate you. A desire for more. Learning techniques to raise your confidence is easy but it takes time and practice to keep your confidence at the forefront and to develop healthy self-esteem.
While most of what we are taught can help us not all of it will empower us to shine our brightest and be our best. We are made to feel guilty, called names, beaten when we do something wrong, are laughed at or shouted at when we “fail.” All this adds up to create an adult who believes they are not 100% whole and complete exactly as they are. I found it easier to believe that I had “missing pieces” or “broken parts”, that there were people who were better than I was, women who were prettier. I believed this for a large part of my life. Building my self confidence to a level where I believed that I am whole and complete exactly as I am was what made the biggest difference.
Building self confidence is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself because it will allow you to
believe in your ability to succeed whether others do or not.
be totally self expressed and devoid of how people think you “should” talk or “should” dress, or the acts you “should” take. Or even the way you “should” think, feel and behave.
Be happy to be you, in whatever way being you feel like in that moment, will be a true gift that you will be eternally grateful for.
There is absolutely no reason at all why you should suffer from a lack of self confidence because it is something over which you have absolute and immediate control. Think of building self confidence as a muscle; it never stays the same for any period of time and the more you use it the stronger it becomes. Like any muscle confidence either weakens or gets stronger so please treat your self confidence as a muscle to exercise and provide it with small daily improvements.
Your confidence plays a part in contributing to your vitality, energy level, persistence, and personal magnetism because it is all about what is on the inside, a belief in yourself and your abilities that remains constant despite the storm.
Building self confidence will lead to developing your self worth which will improve your self esteem. When you start to become responsible for who you are, what you have and what you do. It’s like a flame that starts slowly before building and gradually spreading into a huge powerful fire, which helps us to take control of our mission, values, passion and purpose. Now doesn’t that sound like something worth working towards?
Do you want to know the secret to becoming unstoppable? - it's all about building self