Being Able To Say No Is Also Part Of Asking
Session 5 of the Ask For What You Want free personal development ecourse focuses on being able to say NO!
Its one of the smallest words in the dictionary and yet for many being able to say no is one of the hardest ones to say. What makes it even harder is having to say NO to someone that you may have asked for help from and they said yes!
Someone saying yes to your request does not make you obligated to do the same thing. Remember at all times people have a choice and just because they choose to say yes it doesn’t mean you have to make that choice too. At all times your decision should only be based on what works for you. Doing something because you feel you have to, or should puts you in a position of feeling powerless and you should avoid that happening.
If saying NO to family, friends, ex partners or anyone close to you is hard the first thing to look at is what makes it difficult for you. Are you afraid of them? Are you afraid of their reaction if you say no? Do you want to remain “good” in their eyes so you avoid saying no?
Asking for what you want is about finding out why you don’t already and deciding what you will do to change that. Saying NO to anyone who asks you for something is exactly the same. There is a reason you can’t say NO and you need to discover what that reason is. Be honest with yourself, ask within (don’t have a conversation about it with 5 of your friends – you have your own answer!) and see what comes forward.
Just keep asking “why am I afraid to say NO?”
If you want to take it a step further sit down with a piece of paper and keep writing down the question until an answer appears and then write down the answer. Continue to just repeat the question and write it down until answers present themselves. You may write the question 10 times before you receive one answer but before long the answers will flow and you will have a list of what it is that stops you.
If you want to share what stops you saying NO then leave a comment. Also let us know what you think you can do about it (because beieve it or not you do already have the answer)
I look forward to sharing session six with you.
You can get hold of my ebook that will provide you with tips on how to say no and how to ask for what you want here
http://www.howtobooklets.net/ask-for-what-you-want/
Diane
Do you want to know the secret to becoming unstoppable? - it's all about building self[Your IT Session 3] What’s Your Lifes Purpose?
The search to discover what your life purpose is really doesn’t have to be that difficult. People spend a fortune in time and money to discover what it might be when really it’s quite simple.
All you need to do is ask yourself!
I know, that’s way too simplistic but consider this…. Who knows you better than you do?
The thing is we have been taught to find answers from our parents, from our teachers, from our boss, from our friends, we are so caught up in discovering answers about who we are and what we should be doing in other people that we forget to stop and ask ourselves.
What have you always loved to do?
There will be something since childhood that you have spent your life doing. Its completely natural to you so you may be overlooking it.
Now’s the time to begin the journey of trusting yourself and the answers you have within you.
Start small. Every day smile at someone, or if someone is unhappy cheer them up. Say thank you to someone, praise someone for a job well done. Begin to be of service to other people in small ways that are completely free and take up seconds in your day and see how that makes you feel.
Also ask the question. “What is my purpose in life? I am ready to discover it and I give thanks for having it revealed to me”
Say that (or even better make up your own line) as often as you can. Say it in the morning, during the day, before going to sleep and allow your unconscious mind time to bring it to your attention.
There is no time limit to this so don’t give up after two days because you don’t have an answer, just keep asking the question and the answer will be revealed to you.
In the meantime while you wait be of service to others in whatever way fills you with joy and you will find that before long your purpose will be revealed.
Diane
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Your “IT” is a free Ecourse put togther to help you on your journey towards discovering what your “IT” is for you.
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