A definite reason if not a season
I recently met up with a man who found me online. He had seen my profile in an online dating site I joined years ago and never really did anything with (still need to go in and delete myself!) and as I wasn’t active on the site he did a little digging and found me. He even joined Twitter to connect with me!
That was alot of effort just to meet someone and we met for lunch and had a great afternoon chatting.
I never heard from him again (and its my policy to never chase!) but that afternoon reminded me that it was a long time since I had allowed myself to just have fun and enjoy the company of another man. Since giving up the man I considered to be the love of my life (and there’s nothing harder than having to give that up!) I had buried myself in work for the last 2 years and it was time to stop doing that.
So I joined match.com and am going to see what happens there plus I’m going out alot more and getting loads of attention when I do. The new, supportive, brilliantly creative, abundant thinking man in my life is just around the corner.
I never once questioned why this man didn’t call me because I believe in the “reason, season, lifetime” philosopy that people come in and out of your life either for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When someone leaves your life rather than question why and make it mean something about you, you can just wish them well and take a look at the lesson within the event.
My lesson was definitely God saying to me “it’s time to get yourself out there girl!”
And “getting myself out there” is exactly what i’ve been busy doing 
Reason, Season, Lifetime
I seem to be going through an ending phase in my life right now. Everything that is not meant to be is ending. i’m clinging onto one particular relationship though probably because I believe if I let go I may never find the same kind of support, love and understanding again.
Of course that’s not true. With every new relationship the man in my life gets better and better so I should really embrace this end and look forward to the next amazing man that will step into my life.
I felt recently that it’s time to let go. That it’s all coming to an end. I have been blessed really. In my very small number of relationships I have been lucky enough to love and be deeply loved by two men… so third time lucky eh!
Today I picked up Acts of Faith by Iyana Vanzant. Opened it up (on July 16th) and this is what it said….. (in summary)
“When someone is in your life for a reason it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly….. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end…..What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on. Next!”
Source : Acts Of Faith. Iyanla Vanzant
