Your inner conflicts and doubts can stop you getting what you desire
If you have been using the power of affirmations to state that you want to build your self confidence and you are not experiencing the results that you want it is time to look at whether there is anything else stopping you from succeeding.
If you have doubt that you can really be that confident then you will experience blocks that will stop you getting it. Hopefully, you have taken the time to define what it is you want to experience, written it down so you have set out a clear intention, and created your affirmation from that clear intention. Well, if it isn’t working then chances are you have inner doubts that are stopping it and you need to clear anything that runs counter to what you say you want.
Not sure if there are internal doubts – then you need to ask questions – click the link to read my blog post on how to ask questions that will build self confidence
The questions will provide you with the answers you need to see what your doubts are, for example a client Jenny (not her real name!) had great ideas but never followed through with many of them. She talked a lot about what she wanted to do but 90% of the time she never got round to making it happen. She asked herself the question….
“Why do I always start something and never finish it? What is the lesson to learn and/or positive intention of this?”
She asked that question every day when she had a quiet moment, eventually after a few weeks (always remember answers may not come instantly so keep asking and be open to receiving an answer until it arrives) an answer suddenly popped into her head while she was running on the treadmill in the gym!
“You just don’t believe in yourself enough to think your ideas could actually be a success. We are protecting you from the embarrassment of failure”
From that answer Jenny could see that she needed more self confidence in her abilities. As she looked back over her life looking at all her ideas and even going on to look at her personal and professional life she could see that many things didn’t work out because she didn’t have enough self confidence in her own abilities and/or because she was afraid of failure.
With that identified Jenny was able to use emotional freedom technique (EFT) to remove that inner doubt, she created positive affirmations about believing in her ability to achieve and created a visualisation of her successfully being promoted at work, while taking action on getting that promotion. She spent time building her self confidence in her ability to get a much better job either internally or with another organisation (she also found blocks around her finding a new employer which she removed) and kept up with the same affirmation/visualisation until it happened.
It took around 8 months in total but finally Jenny was free of that particular inner doubt and she went on to be promoted within her own organisation and a year later found a much better job with more money and less hours. Now she is working on removing her doubts about running her own business!
A great way to clear any negative beliefs, doubt and fear is to use emotional freedom technique (EFT) because if you do experience doubt then it will become counter intuitive and ruin what you are trying to do. Once you release your inner blocks you will be able to experience self confidence.
Suspend Disbelief & negative thoughts – instead remain open
If you really want to enjoy self confidence and you are shy or completely lacking in self confidence right now I need to do something if you want to see your life change. You must suspend disbelief, or be open to ‘wait and see’ how this will work for you, this is very, very important if you want to experience results. Even if you can’t believe what you are saying in your affirmations or you have created a visualisation of what you want and you are not sure if it will happen that really is okay but I need you to suspend disbelief and stop saying words that confirm it may not happen.
Tell yourself you are not sure if this is going to work but you are open to giving it a go and experiencing results. Tell yourself you will put your disbelief in a box for now and go with the flow. Tell yourself whatever you need to in order to suspend DISBELIEF and instead keep an open mind… “I have no idea if this is going to work but I am willing to play with it to see what happens” is a much better approach than saying “this won’t work for me” or “I tried this and it doesn’t work” which will instantly kill your desires dead in their tracks.
What you say to yourself and your negative inner feels (doubt, worry and fear) play a huge part in how quickly your self confidence will grow. Discovering what your inner conflicts are as quickly as possible and using emotional freedom technique to dissolve them will help you build a more confident you quicker than you can ever imagine.
About Diane Corriette
I write on this self development blog about building self confidence, and living a life of full self expression where you are free to be you. Being able to be confident is not so much about how you think but what you feel. To successfully build self confidence you must use your thoughts to create an image of who you want to be, and your emotions to help you feel this amazing new you and then visualise & focus on it until it becomes your reality.
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